Spotlight Story Program: Meet Megan Elizabeth

The power of the blog is strong, especially when it can be part of your own self-discovery and bringing community to others. That’s someone our latest Spotlight Story Program feature writer has learned through her writing and chronic illness journey, and we’re excited to share the story of Megan Elizabeth.  This British young adult dealt with a chronic illness journey many can relate to: the evolving diagnosis list. As she got older, Megan was diagnosed first with NF1, then hydrocephalus, and a couple years ago with ileocaecal Crohn’s Disease, and during that time, Megan learned not only how to adapt and find her passions, but how to build the person she would become with the constant support of her family. Megan knows the chronic illness journey isn’t always easy, but it has allowed her to learn about her resilience, strength, compassion and fun in her life, all traits that she’s adamant to advocate every young person with chronic illness discovers in themselves. With her five comforting mental reminders, Megan will give you the boost you need to recharge your life.

Hi InvisiYouth family! I’m Megan, a 23 year old digital communications officer and founder of the Hearth by Megan blog from Leicestershire, England. In my spare time, I love going on local travels with my family in our motorcaravan. I will also admit to getting emotionally invested in TV shows. Any Great British Bake Off fans out there? And like you, my life has been affected by chronic illness.

When I was 6-ish years old (it was a long time ago), I received a clinical diagnosis of Neurofibromatosis Type 1 (NF1) – a genetic condition, although my case is spontaneous as no one else in my family has it. I have freckling and café au lait marks on my body and I also have lisch nodules on the back of my eyes. I have partial NF1, meaning only half of my cells are affected and so far, I am one of the milder cases of NF. This meant I led a pretty normal childhood, albeit an annual genetics check-up.

A larger health shock happened when I was 13. I had an MRI scan after experiencing some neck pain, just to make sure that I didn’t have any internal fibromas, another symptom of NF.

There wasn’t much concern at the time, the scan was just going to be a baseline to go in my records. A few days later, we had a call saying the scan showed fluid on my brain and in a whirlwind week I was diagnosed with hydrocephalus and went within 24 hours of having brain surgery. I’m not too sure of the correct medical explanation, but my understanding is that I have a piece of skin blocking a channel in my brain which has resulted in enlarged ventricles. Despite two diagnoses, I was still well and discharged without surgery on the understanding that we would monitor things and have annual neurology reviews.

Since then, I struggled more with my mental health in my teens, particularly with health anxiety surrounding my conditions. With support, I got myself back on track and again was able to continue life pretty normally, bar the annual neurology and genetics appointments. I completed my GCSEs and A Levels at school and went off to study Linguistics at the University of Leeds.

Then another diagnosis came. One which really changed my life and introduced me to the world of chronic illness. In March 2019, I developed abdominal pain and vomiting which led to a hospital admission and concerns of appendicitis. Within about 48 hours of me being admitted to hospital, I needed a scan to show what was going on. After an emergency CT scan, it turned out my appendix was fine, but part of my bowel was inflamed. A colonoscopy and biopsies later confirmed I had ileocaecal Crohn’s Disease. Since then, I have been adjusting to chronic illness life with Crohn’s, which has been a rollercoaster of flare-ups and remission, immunosuppressant medication, and hospital trips and tests along the way.

I’ve had my own blog for many years, and this really helped after my diagnosis. I discovered an incredible group of people with chronic illnesses wanting to support one another and raise awareness. Social media can be a tricky thing to navigate when you are ill and seeing other people out and about enjoying life, but the chronic illness community truly lift each other up. Whether you are in hospital, struggling with something or celebrating someone’s successes, we are all here for each other through the highs and lows.

Since talking more about my experience, I’ve had messages from people saying that how much it has helped them. If it helps even just one other person, then it is worth doing.

I am grateful to have the most supportive family. I can talk to them about anything, and they would never treat me differently for having a chronic illness.

Sometimes though, you don’t want to have to go through the process of explaining why you feel a certain way. Talking to others with chronic illnesses, even if different from your own, can be one of the most comforting things. To know that we are in this together and there are people out there who simply ‘get it’.

We need to talk more. There is still a great deal that needs to be done to ensure equality, understanding and respect for people with disabilities and chronic illness, to ensure access to the right care, treatment, and diagnosis, to educate non-disabled people and so much more. The more awareness made; the more action taken.

Although living with Crohn’s Disease is immensely difficult, there is so much I’ve learnt along the way. In a weird way, I think I prefer who I am as a person now (minus my gut getting attacked by my own body).

I’m no medical expert, counsellor, or anything like that, but here are some things which help me get through the tough times and maybe something that could take comfort from too:

  1. The incredible chronic illness community is ready to welcome you with open arms.
  2. Going through traumatic experiences helps to put things into perspective. I’ve learnt to appreciate all the good moments, no matter how small. I never really knew what people meant before when they talked about ‘creating joy’. I now see this as actively choosing to do something that makes me feel good and having a range of options for higher and lower energy days. I’ll sometimes just put an episode of Friends on for 20 minutes, purely because I know it will make me smile and bring some light to darker days.
  3. I used to be a major planner. I had my life mapped out and used to set lots of goals. Living with Crohn’s has taught me to live in the moment more. Learning to be present has been a positive lifestyle change. It’s important to focus on the certainty of this moment, rather than the uncertainty of tomorrow.
  4. I have more empathy with others and want to help people. I am more understanding and determined to make the most of life. I want to raise awareness for all of us going through the hardships that come with chronic illness. To give everyone a voice and to create a better society where people feel safe, respected, and able to talk openly about health.
  5. Stand your ground and be honest – Don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself if you feel like someone is not listening to you properly or respecting your concerns, even if it is a medical professional. Trust your instincts if something doesn’t feel right.

It takes someone truly brave and strong to live with chronic illness. Remember how resilient, wonderfully unique, and beautiful you are both inside and out. We’ve got this!

Spotlight Story Program: Meet Kate Henry

The journey may not always be easy, but it’s your life and deserves to be lived with all the joys and passions that fuel your heart! That’s a big message from our latest Spotlight Story Program feature writer, not only in her life journey with chronic illnesses, but also in the advocacy and digital fingerprint she’s leaving on the world.  Say hello to InvisiYouth’s first New Zealander Global Brand Leader, art and design student, Kate Henry! Living with illnesses like IgA immunodeficiency, Hashimoto’s disease, POTS, and more, Kate has had many challenges for her health thrown her way since she was born. But as she’s gotten older and began finding what brings her joy, Kate began working towards being an active participant in her life, and finding happiness through adapting and excelling. With seven life mindset-boosting tips, Kate’s words will give you a deep realness on living your best life in the ways your health can allow.

*Kia Ora!

My name is Kate and I am a 19-year-old art and design student all the way from little old New Zealand, Aotearoa.

My journey with my health begins all the way back in 2002, yup that’s right… the year I was born. Although considered a perfectly healthy baby, I was apparently always unsettled. I seemed like I was in pain a lot of the time and had trouble keeping my food down, which were all just little glimpses of what my future was going to be like.

From the age of five, my health became even more disruptive to my quality of life as I began to experience chronic pain, nausea, frequent infections and viruses—many things no five-year-old should have to deal with. Over the next few years of my life I was tested on, trialed on medications and spent a lot of time with my mum sitting right beside my bed, holding my hand until I fell asleep.

At the age of seven, I was diagnosed with IgA immunodeficiency and a severe gluten intolerance. After being treated for these and removing all gluten from my diet, I found some relief, a kind of relief that every kid deserves.

But then high school happened, my body changed and unfortunately my health did too.

I was getting increasingly ill, passing out during classes, unable to eat any food without being sick, and in severe pain almost every minute of every day… all while trying to balance being a teenager. Over the next six years, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s disease, hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia syndrome (POTS) and a slightly curved spine resulting in chronic back, pelvic and leg pain. Safe to say, my life got flipped upside down and everything became increasingly hard. School was hard, socialising was hard, getting out of bed was hard, being me in this body was hard. But chronic illness is hard, and my experience with it is no exception to that.

But when everything feels hard, everything also feels heavy. And with my body taking so much away from me already, lately I have been actively choosing to make my experience that tiny bit easier, choosing a much happier life no matter the circumstance. Unfortunately, that’s a lot easier said than done, when the odds are against you, but so worth it in the end. Small changes for me have made a world of difference.

Accepting that this is where I am at, that this is how much my body can do before it breaks, that this is my life and I’ve just got to work with the body I’ve been given are all thought processes that have allowed me to accept my situation. By no means does this mean that I’m smiling my way through the whole flare up, but instead of feeling guilty for not being able to do as much as others or resenting my body for the pain it puts me in, I am simply kinder to myself, which allows me to feel a bit more like me again.

Over the 19 years I’ve got to experience in this beautiful body of mine, I am so proud of how far I have come and eternally grateful for much I have managed to achieve. But the most exciting part is that this is just the start, and that there is so much more I have to look forward to, no matter the circumstance of my health. And you do too.

I completely understand that positivity is not a cure and that sometimes we want to grief our past life, our healthy life. And I think that is also an incredibly important part of the healing process, but if we can just be slightly kinder to ourselves and our situation, we might have more time to enjoy the better parts of this life we are getting to live.

So although I’m no expert and to be completely honest, I’m still figuring this whole chronic illness thing out. I’ve decided to write down some of the small tips that have helped me on this journey so far… I hope they can help you too!

  1. Look after that beautiful brain of yours. Many people with chronic illnesses also suffer from mental health conditions too. For many our physical symptoms will be with us for a while, if not forever. But by looking after our mental health we don’t have to lose who we are to our illness. We can just adapt instead.
  2. Recognise your strength—Yes you! Life with chronic illness can be so incredibly tough so you are so strong for doing life in a body that makes everything that bit harder.
  3. Reach out—there are so many amazing communities out there either online or in person that can support you. Plus making spoonie friends is always the best!
  4. Adapt—for so long I was so stuck in my ways, continuing to live my life like a healthy person, like everyone else around me. But that was extremely tiring and if anything made me even sicker. So changing the way you live to work with your body not against it can be super beneficial!
  5. Always be you. When living with chronic illness, we can come consumed by the idea of being sick that we forget who we are. Doing small activities that remind yourself of who you are before your illness and who you will be throughout can be helpful xx
  6. Find people who make you feel good <3. The better the support system, the better the experience.
  7. Allow yourself to feel—don’t be getting all guilty for being upset for where you are at or for your health, chronic illness sucks, it always will and it’s totally okay to be upset about that. But afterwards, find someone to give you a nice big hug, and remind yourself just how well you are doing.

I am so proud of you 🙂

Hugs and spoons,

Kate xx

*  “kia ora” is a way to say hello and express gratitude in New Zealand. It derives from the indigenous Māori language, te reo.

Spotlight Story Program: Meet Jasmine Chen

Perseverance, energy, adaptability, joy and wisdom. These are all traits we try to supply to all our young adults in the InvisiYouth community, and all perfect descriptors of our newest Spotlight Story Program feature writer, Jasmine Chen. From New Jersey, Jasmine is not your average 28 year old because she’s also a double lung transplant warrior after dealing with RSV. Her chronic illnesses have given her the life experiences to look at the world with such an empathetic and passionate lens. With her eagerness to improve her daily life, Jasmine has advocated not only for her physical health, but also her mental health, empowering others in the benefits of therapy too. We are so excited for you to read Jasmine’s story, and learn her five life lessons that you can easily apply in your daily life too.

My name is Jasmine, I am 28 years old from New Jersey and in July, I will be two years post- double lung transplant. Despite all the challenges of the past two years (and a pandemic to top it off), it was the best decision I ever made, and managing this condition constantly reminds me of what really matters in life:  family, friends, and finding purpose.

Every year, my birthday would come around, and every year, I would blow on my candles and wish for the same thing: to have healthy lungs.  My chronic health journey began when I was three: a doctor’s visit turned into a hospitalization of six weeks; while under the hospital’s care and observation for pneumonia, I caught RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus). As a young child, I was much more vulnerable to the virus, and the RSV ravaged through my lungs in a short period of time.  Even though I won the battle, the aftermath of permanently scarred lungs turned into an ongoing war.  I was a confusing and rare case, and the doctors tentatively diagnosed me with Bronchiolitis Obliterans.

When I entered my double-digit years, I graduated from oxygen dependency around the clock, and began physically attending school part-time.  Managing a depleted lung function on top of asthma and a defenseless immune system, my head was always calculating ways to save energy, maximize efficiency, and survive: I would gauge whether the energy spent trekking to my locker outweighed the expense of carrying around a heavy textbook.  My normal speed was a slower pace than the average student and I didn’t tend to have the breath to converse, and so I found myself walking alone a lot.

College made it more apparent that invisible illness was both a blessing and a curse.  Being able to blend in with the crowd around campus helped because it did not garner any unwanted attention.  On the other hand, I found myself often struggling to convince professors, friends, and people in general that I had a disability. A lack of visible proof resulted in many occasions where ignorance fed into a gaslighting culture and my imposter syndrome constantly minimized my suffering.

Dealing with society’s ignorance and treatment of my disability is on par, if not arguably worse, then managing the health struggles itself. 

For example, there were times I had to choose between my health and grades when a college professor refused to allow me to miss the final exam when I was ill.  There was the time HR called me in because an anonymous coworker reported me for “abusing” my handicap spot. Did I feel anger, resentment, and frustration when these situations happened?  Absolutely. Accepting that these things will happen and learning not to get stuck in it is a lifelong challenge.

Here are some of the things I would tell my younger self if I could:

#1: Learn to self-advocate. Over time, I learned to make my thoughts and concerns louder, whether that was dealing with coworkers, nurses and doctors, or insurance.  I used to believe the right way to be humble was by obediently following directions, and trusting those in charge, but eventually I realized it was important to be assertive and vocal while also doing your own research and thinking for yourself: it is possible to both retain humility and make your voice heard.

#2: Be gentle with yourself. You are more resilient than you think. People with chronic illnesses tend to experience the best and worst of life. Sometimes life throws curveballs at you, and many things are simply out of your control.  You will meet some unfriendly people, face complicated health issues, and have bad days. But you will also meet some amazing human beings, overcome those challenges, and have great days.

#3: Do not be afraid to seek help. Therapy is a lot like dating: when you meet the right one, it can be cathartic and life-changing. I built up the courage to overcome the stigma of therapy and sorted through several therapists before I found the right one. I began therapy during a dark period in college where I felt isolated, lost, and seriously wondered what the point of carrying on was. These sessions not only helped me navigate through the mental roller coaster of pre- and post- lung transplant, but also forced me to confront my own self-doubts and fears, ultimately empowering me to find and create the life I envision for myself (this will always be a work-in-progress).

#4: They are not a reflection of your self-worth. The level of your academics, the number of friends you have, and the experiences you may be deprived of are not your fault. You will meet various unique hurdles in life, whether they be people or circumstances. The amount of classes I missed, especially during the winter, was reflected in my grades.  There were friendships that died instantly or faded over time, whether they be because of betrayal, rejection, ignorance, or isolation.

Over time, this perpetuated a greater reluctance to disclose my health condition, for fear people would keep their distance once they knew.  But none of these difficult relationships or experiences define who you are or what your value is as a human being.

#5: You are the author, director, and CEO of your own identity. “She doesn’t like to mix negative and positive energy…”  This is a quote from one of my favorite movies, 50/50 (one of the few realistic movies that does not feed into an “inspiration porn” portrayal of illness).  Adam explains to his friend Kyle that his girlfriend has trouble dealing with the fact that he has cancer and refuses to mix her normal, able-bodied lifestyle (“positive energy”) with the “negative energy” of the hospital, which was a culmination of Adam’s illness and pain. For the longest time, I avoided using my handicap sign because I denied that I needed it.

I wanted one insignificant part of my life roaming the parking lots to be separate from my chronic illness life: instead, I gave myself the unnecessary burden of trying to live two identities.  But the truth is, I don’t have to choose between me who is ill and the parts of me that aren’t.  I am both.  I am just me: You are the only one who gets to define who you are. 

After some post-transplant complications, today I am at roughly 75% lung function as opposed to 16%.  I take a plethora of pills on a daily schedule, I get my blood drawn regularly, I converse frequently with my doctors and undergo whatever procedures are required, I have “moon-face” from steroids- occasionally, I argue with insurance.

But I am reborn in some sense, experiencing everything with new lungs and lung capacity I never had before.  I’ve learned to meditate and savor moments like when I’m safely at home, appreciating the silence and the privacy of my room- things I do not have when hospitalized.

Everything I’ve gone through has grown greater my empathy: I see the hidden pain in others’ eyes because I recognize it so clearly in my own.”- Melinda Means.

My first time hiking up three miles, first time walking up and down the stairs more than twice a day, and more recently, the first time dancing for a couple hours at one of my best friend’s weddings. Looking forward to many more first times.

 

Spotlight Story Program: Meet Isabella McCray

Letting go of the illusion, and fully embracing the life you’re living now. That’s a prime mindset InvisiYouth advocates through its programs, and it’s a focal point of our latest Spotlight Story Program feature writer’s daily life. Say hello to the American stellar teen, Isabella McCray, who has not only celebrated a high school AND Associates degree graduation this month, but uses her platform to raise awareness of the chronic illness she lives with, Lupus. This autoimmune disease is life-altering, and since her pre-teens into her later teen years Isabella has needed to balance her health changes with her life changes. Isabella’s journey with Lupus shares her vulnerable strength and how her reclaimed her bravery through her flare-ups, even embracing the pains to live life at its fullest. Now with eyes set on being a pediatric nurse, Isabella is allowing her voice to encourage community connectivity and support, while sharing what it’s like living and managing Lupus. And with May being Lupus Awareness Month, we knew having Isabella share her story would educate and empower many other teens in the Lupus and autoimmune disease community! 

Hi, my name is Isabella McCray and I am a chronic illness and Lupus advocate, inspiring and encouraging young adults like me! I use my platform to talk about all things chronic illness and spread the word about what it’s like living and managing Lupus.

When I was little, I went to preschool and my teacher used to always rub and massage my legs because my legs were always sore. Eventually, it became difficult to run and play, to climb stairs, and if I had exposure to sunlight/heat, I would break out in hives.

I went to my pediatrician and she diagnosed me with growing pains.

Fast forward 2014, I saw visibly swollen glands and I visited my pediatrician again and she referred me to an ENT doctor. He discovered in my blood some abnormalities and referred me to my present pediatric rheumatologist. He ordered various blood tests and on my next visit with him, I was diagnosed with Lupus SLE.

I recall searching what it was and reading about the symptoms. I experienced each of them. Joint pain, headaches, fatigue, butterfly rash, hair loss, etc. I was just 11 when I was diagnosed with Lupus. I was a young child and I didn’t know how to feel or how to accept my diagnosis. I also didn’t know that my life would change forever.

In the years following, I learned to managed my chronic illness; that had no cure. My classmates didn’t know because I didn’t want them to view me differently. However, it was the year 2017  when my journey crossed and I discovered new bravery for every aspect of my life. I had my first flare-up; I was home-bound from school for 5 months, and the most time I was admitted in the hospital being 2 weeks. I had to tell my peers about my condition because of my absences. It was at that point that I was at my lowest.

I didn’t have the bravery I held when I was little. I was in unbearable pain and I was hopeless of things getting better. I started losing my hair, which was 14 inches long and my appearance changed. I consulted with a chronic illness hairstylist, who specialized in haircuts for Lupus patients. I had dreadlocks since I was 4 years old and getting them cut, I felt like I lost one of the most important parts of what made me.

In light of my insecurities and challenges, I decided to cut my hair.  I immediately made adjustments to my schedule and my classifications with my peers.

This did not sit well with some and I was subjected to bullying. I experienced emotional, physical, and mental pain but I never gave up. It wasn’t that giving up was an option because it was.

However, I didn’t let the pain and suffering I endured break me. Instead, I started embracing the pain and turning it into strength and inspiration.

Experiencing a life-changing illness that changes your outlook on everything is stressful and overwhelming. That is why I use my voice to bring awareness to chronic illnesses and inspire others in this community to hold on and if you feel like giving up, you have a whole community to back you up.

Despite our limitations, we can develop patience and discover hope in the worst of situations. Because battling a life-altering illness is a tough journey and changing directions in life is not a bad decision. It just allows you to change your story and experience the high and lows with an amazing support system on social media.

Being part of a community so empowering and influential, and it encouraged me to share my voice and interact with others. I have grown and matured to know my worth and who I am, personally. I am compassionate, caring, sweet, understanding, and forgiving! I experienced so many things in my childhood that I should’ve experienced now being a young adult. I was such a private person growing up, but making my diagnoses public was one of the best decisions I made.

I had to face unknown experiences, having hope and strength and the mindset of coming out of these experiences even stronger. I became an advocate and not only for chronic illnesses, but also for my education as well.

I am currently a senior in high school, graduating with my high school diploma and Associates of Arts degree. Being afforded the opportunity of encountering many doctors and nurses on my various visits to the hospital inspired me to pursue and further my education in nursing to hopefully become a pediatric nurse.

During a visit with my specialist, my mom saw a pamphlet about Make-A-Wish Foundation. She reached out and contacted them about my journey and how far I’ve come and they wanted to have a meeting with my mom and I. Personally, whatever my wish was, I wanted to bring awareness to Lupus.  My Wish was to meet the cast of Good Morning America. Robin Roberts is an inspiring role model who I still admire today. My wish was granted, after several months, and it was an experience I will never forget!

Throughout my journey, I learned to let go of the illusion that it could have been different and understand my purpose now. It’s not every day you’re going to feel your best, and I can’t even count how many pep talks I have with my body every day to function and “get it together”!

The funny part is I’m still the same as before, I’m just diagnosed with a life-changing illness that presents challenges. I’m just stronger, wiser, more compassionate, and my sense of humor is a bit dark.

People manage their chronic illness differently, it’s whatever works for you. At the end of the day, you made it, and that itself is a victory. Know your limitations, enjoy life, take your medications, be yourself, and most of all, rest and breathe because you are here, now.

Spotlight Story Program: Meet Caitlyn Fulton

Meet Caitlyn Fulton

Growing up in Scotland with cerebral palsy, Caitlyn Fulton has challenged herself to not only become her biggest cheerleader for her daily life, but to take her hobbies and bring them into the forefront of the work and activism she does. Having studied music in university and being a model, Caitlyn is constantly free in using media and art to break stigmas while also empowering other young people that they can find their inner strength in the things they love to do. While Caitlyn’s CP doesn’t define her, it gives her a lens to tackle life and achieve her goals, and we’re proud that she’s a GBL-All Star in Caitlyn’s second year working with InvisiYouth in our leadership program! Caitlyn gives so much good advice your young adults to finds ways to enjoy life even in those medical settings, and how to have your chronic illness/disability be not your sole identifier but one of the traits that make you unique!

Hi! My name is Caitlyn, I’m 20 from Scotland. I was born premature and as a result was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy. CP is a neurological condition which is caused by damage to the brain. For me, CP effects my balance and coordination.

I’ve used my health journey in my work by exploring the things I love, like my passion for music. I studied it at Diploma level [in university], and alongside music as a whole, I’m a vocalist at heart and love to sing. I can just be me and not think of my condition; it’s a freeing feeling of enjoyment too.

Secondly, I’ve used my health journey to inspire others by becoming a model—signed with Zebedee Talent—breaking down the barriers and stigmas about disability that the fashion and media industry hold.

It allows me to challenge stigmas on disability and raising awareness of disabled people in wheelchairs specifically by being seen in a positive light and that’s what I’m aiming for! There’s still a long way to go for the industry to be completely inclusive but in the last couple of years there’s been a real positive change within – step/wheel in the right direction.

I also play Boccia (a Paralympic sport) with a recognised team in Glasgow as part of Scottish Disability Sport. By doing so, not only am I raising awareness of disability but also women in sport too as it’s a rather male-dominated field.

Writing/blogging is recent addition but I like writing about topics that are important to me, such as disability rights and my hobbies which hopefully resonates with other young people as it’s great for them to know others out there like myself feel the same way as them. Through my health journey, I’ve grown in knowing I shouldn’t feel bad for having Cerebral Palsy. It makes me who I am, though it doesn’t define me. I wouldn’t be the person I am today if I was non-disabled and I don’t know if I would want to be a totally different person – I’m happy being in the skin I’m in because I’m unique.

I’ve found ways to support others by sharing similar experiences and being a source of encouragement that while yes, life throws a lot of challenges, I always tackle them head on and think there’s always a reason why. I’m a true believer in the phrase, “things happen for a reason’.”

It’s been great having support groups too, connecting with others who have the same conditions and interests as myself. Social media is certainly a great tool to connect and interact. Especially with the likes of InvisiYouth, it’s been brilliant being part of such a great organisation and connecting with other young people worldwide.

When I look at my experiences in medical settings, there’s things I’ve learned that I’d love to share with others to improve their experiences. Even if it’s your first appointment in a new hospital where you’ve been referred for treatment, changing consultants or moving up from child to adult services -I know how daunting all of this can be as I’ve experienced it first hand – become familiar with your surroundings, get to know the nurses/staff who’ll be caring for you if its procedure-related.

Also bring home comforts, items that make you feel calm.

Whenever I went in for operations knowing it would be a good few weeks before going home, it helped knowing who the team members were that would have me in their care and over time there’s a bond that’s created. It’s bittersweet going home, I always felt sad saying goodbye when it was time to go yet it was a great feeling to know I was on the right track and made great progress.

In your daily life, know that your condition doesn’t defy you. Yes, it’s part of you but your worth so much more with the interests you have, outlays that shaped you, make you who you are. Dealing with my health has shaped me in knowing that I’ll experience many hurdles in life but I’ll always get through them no matter what. As I’ve gotten older I don’t feel embarrassed about having a disability and now I embrace it—it’s my superpower and I have a story to tell.

My main message: There will be good and bad days but know that your condition makes you who you are. Strive to be the best version of yourself, make the most of it.

I always say to myself ‘I was given this life because I was strong enough to live it’: strong enough to the face the battles that come my way and cherish the moments in live that are to be remembered. Look your bad days in the eye and know you’ll overcome them, maybe not tomorrow or the next day but you will achieve. Whenever you feel good in yourself, you can get through it all and survived another day, that’s what I tell myself and you should too – be proud!

Spotlight Story Program: Meet Rachel Hoy

Meet Rachel Hoy

Starting off 2021 with an upgrade to our Spotlight Story Program because it will now be MONTHLY human stories told BY young people FOR young people in the chronic illness/disability/mental health community! 

There is no better person to start the Spotlight Story Program for the new year than lyme disease activist and owner of the popular brand Tee Spoonies, Rachel Hoy. Being part of our Global Brand Leaders Program for two years, now as a #GBLAllStar, Australian Rachel has been such a firm believer for empowering young people with chronic illnesses to advocate for themselves. This coming from her experience living with Lyme disease and co-infections, along with POTS, MCAS, interstitial cystitis and autoimmune conditions. She understands that balancing life, work and chronic illness takes time–especially living with Lyme disease in Australia as comprehension and treatment access is harder to come by–and learning how you empower yourself to enjoy and succeed in life with any health struggles was something Rachel was super passionate for, and it resulted in her creating her own brand Tee Spoonies. Selling ethically made products like pocket tees, scrunchies, cards and more, Rachel has built a community behind Tee Spoonies that mirrors her style of activism perfectly!

My name is Rach – I’m a 28 year old Australian living with Lyme disease & co infections as well as POTS, MCAS, interstitial cystitis and autoimmune conditions.

I was infected with Lyme & co infections on a trip to the USA after finishing my Master’s degree six years ago.

The first two years after getting sick I spent most of my time searching for a diagnosis, only to find out when it did come, that the hardest part was ahead of me.

At 22 years, I had travelled the world, completed two degrees and worked as youth state manager and campaign designer for World Vision Australia, so having to step back to focus on my health was a steep learning curve.

Living with chronic Lyme disease in Australia is especially hard – it is recognised and understood even less here than overseas, which means limited access to doctors and treatments.

After six years of living with Lyme & co my illness has really progressed.

My main symptoms are severe joint pain, fatigue leaving me mainly housebound, headaches/migraines, gut, bladder and mast cell problems, and neurological issues including up to twenty seizures per day.

I learnt rather quickly how tough it could be living with chronic illness as a young person, including doctors who denied the severity of my illness and friends who left my side in the hard times.

I also realised the apparent need for us to be continually advocating for ourselves as chronically ill youth.

One day I had a light bulb moment and realised I could combine a number of my passions together: advocacy, ethical consumerism and design, in order to raise awareness about living with invisible illness.

My first design idea with Tee Spoonies was the invisible illness pocket tee, which has grown to be the most popular!

Having the tee resonate with so many invisible illness warriors has meant a lot.

I sew all of the pockets myself which adds a personal touch.

The chronic illness community is important to so many, and being a part of it in this way, and being able to create products that empower fellow spoonies has been a blessing.

Working with InvisiYouth the past two years has been a great experience. I’m proud to donate 100% of profits from our fundraiser upcycled scrunchie packs & 50% of profits from our recycled paper gift card packs to InvisiYouth.

Our brand is all about making unique, sustainable, ethically made products that are a labour of love.

We also donate 10% of all profits to the Lyme Disease Association of Australia. You can check out more on our website here: teespoonies.com

If I could give some pieces of advice to young people struggling with the throws of chronic & invisible illnesses it would be to remember your inherent value in this world over anything you could possibly accomplish.

Goals are great but values are key.

Often living with chronic illness can mean pushing back or rearranging timelines or goals, which can be disheartening, but who you are in life is a lot more important than where you are in life.

And if you’re reading this now I already know who you are is amazing, because the perseverance, resilience and strength living with serious illness requires does not come easily.

Secondly, you are not alone.

No matter how lonely, devastated or isolated you feel – there is a community out there who understand what you’re going through, and want to support, empower and help you in any way they can.

And lastly, YOU know YOU better than anyone!

Trust in yourself and advocate for your needs… with a little help from your friends 🙂

*to learn more about Rachel’s involvement in our GBL Program, click here. And to learn more about Rachel’s products with Tee Spoonies, click here.*

 

Spotlight Story Program: Meet Bridget Gum

Meet Bridget Gum

Our latest Spotlight Story comes from the East Coast of the United States, and this is not just any addition into our Spotlight Story Program, but from a special young woman who has worked her way up through InvisiYouth’s programming. 18-year-old Bridget Gum because as a volunteer with InvisiYouth during her senior year of high school, and transitioned into our international leadership program, Global Brand Leaders as a GBL-Ambassador. Bridget has fused her experience living with a rare autoimmune disorder called Transverse Myelitis and her love of advocacy, into a great future for her work as she’s now a student at Rider University with aims of helping others. 

My name is Bridget Gum and on November 11, 2002 I was found in my crib completely limp. Since I was a seven month old baby, it made it very challenging to diagnose me because I couldn’t communicate loss of sensation or ability to move, or even if I lost control of my bowel and bladder capabilities.

After six months of living in and out of hospitals and nearly dying a couple of times, I was finally diagnosed with a rare auto-immune disorder called Transverse Myelitis. This disorder attacked my immune system as well as my spinal cord, at the C5-C8 level of my spine, right around what the doctors call “Hangman’s Noose”, which is called that because most people lose the ability to breath and die.

Thankfully, for reasons no one can explain, my spinal cord injury is incomplete, which means my sensory and motor level doesn’t just stop at one level.

As a very young child, I was in therapy for an extremely long time so as to hopefully regain as much function as possible, however, I was only able to have movement and sensation from my shoulders up. Finally, when it was time, I was allowed to go to preschool. I was so excited. A couple of years ago, I found a comic that summarized my experience perfectly: a girl who uses a wheelchair at a specially designed desk for a wheelchair completely oblivious to the fact she was different.

My family treated me normally so when I went to school, I was made aware of how different I was. I grew up in an almost entirely able-bodied community, until I was in fourth grade. I finally went to a family summer camp made entirely for others with my disability, which was life-changing.

It was the first time I was with others like me, and not just being sick in a hospital together, actually doing fun activities. This was when I decided to educate myself on disabled culture and to become an advocate, for both myself and others. I began to work with my therapists to become more independent and began to work with my school to get better services and more appropriate accommodations. In eighth grade, I was diagnosed with epilepsy, completely unrelated to my previous disability.

The memory reset and medications from the seizures completely changed me and how I saw the world. I then became more open and helpful to others because I saw how helpful other people were to me and I really wanted to return that favor to the world.

Throughout my many years of hospitalizations and living with this disability, I learned a lot of responsibility and maturity, which is almost a requirement for living with a disability if you want independence. 

These qualities often seep into my personal life to the point where my friends call me the “Mom” of the group because I’m always helping people, listen to their problems, and I’m prepared for every situation, often in case of emergency.

While the lives of people with disabilities are very different, I wish we could live in a world where it doesn’t have to be.

Of course there will always be an element of medical needs that is different than an able-bodied person, I hope that others with disabilities won’t have to fight for accommodations or be surprised and overly grateful when someone makes you feel like an equal, and not someone who needs to be helped or as a burden.

Now, I have graduated high school and will be attending Rider University as a member of their honors program. And I have joined InvisiYouth Charity’s leadership program, Global Brand Leaders. I’m so excited about being a GBL-Ambassador for InvisiYouth because I want to help people and make the world a better place for everyone who lives in it, especially those with disabilities, and this gives me a platform to do that.

 

InvisiYouth Launches Fundraiser Campaign, InvisiYouth Give Back Challenge for December

November 25, 2019

InvisiYouth’s month-long fundraiser campaign, InvisiYouth Give Back Challenge, launches December 1st and has goals beyond just raising needed funds that will support our programs/events helping young adults with chronic illnesses and disabilities.

(Donate on our JustGiving Page or GoFundMe Page!

100% goes towards InvisiYouth’s 2020 programs!)

This is a fundraiser encouraging everyone to find the ways in their life they can donate back at any scale—where quantity per donor is NOT the priority. It is all about mobilizing young people and their support networks to be small pieces of a large fundraising goal and knowing with certainty each cent matters.

#IYGiveBackChallenge is the first fundraiser campaign built to be easy and stress-free…how amazing is it to be able to feel good AND do good during the holiday season without the hassle.

And the steps to give back are simple:

1. Find one part in your daily life this December and flip it into a mini fundraiser moment!

We’ve got lots of quick #IYGiveBackChallenge ideas here!

Make your coffee and donate that to InvisiYouth!

Collect your coins for December and make that a donation 

Donate in someone’s name as part of your holiday gift that keeps on giving!

Make those holiday parties and friend movie night hangouts super feel good and collect mini-donations from each person for InvisiYouth!

Just want to be awesome one day and drop a donation, that’s perfect!

More ideas on our website too!

2. Donate that amount (any amount, in any currency) to either of our fundraiser pages! (JustGiving or GoFundMe)

3. Donate Shout yourself! Use our #IYGiveBackChallenge certificate on our Instagram or download it here. Plus, we want to give you a shout out for your donation! So tag @invisiyouth!

4. We encourage everyone to get into the giving back spirit and challenge up to four people to also take the #IYGiveBackChallenge!

Friends, family, colleagues, loved ones, Instagram friends or your favorite celebs, influencers and athletes too! Anyone you can think of, challenge them, the more the merrier!

Our goals of $2,000 is so tangible if each person even donates the smallest amount they can and creates a way of donations for change!

100% of all donations in the #IYGiveBackChallenge will be used for InvisiYouth’s 2020 programs (virtual, resources, and leadership training opportunities) and events. Your money will be directly aiding young adults with chronic illnesses and disabilities that truly need our help to thrive and succeed in their lives.

When you donate to InvisiYouth Charity, you are changing a life for the better, and that’s a guarantee! So please, help us be able to continue our work supporting these deserving young people because we cannot do it without you.

Take the InvisiYouth Give Back Challenge, share it on social media, challenge your friends, family, followers and favorite celebrities to get philanthropic with you! What better way to end 2019 feeling good about yourself than knowing each cent you donate is impacting thousands of lives in the year ahead of us!

InvisiYouth Partners Up with Mighty Well for Another New York City Meetup

September 1, 2019 

Last month, InvisiYouth partnered up with our friends at Mighty Well for another meetup. This time it was in Midtown New York City at the Le Pain Quotidien Bryant ParkMighty Well is n athleisure company that makes medical accessory products designed to put strength, confidence and mobility back into the toolkit of spoonies and anyone else coping with ah health setback, so style and function are blended together.  This is our second year cohosting a meetup with Mighty Well, so perhaps this can be an annual alliance—what do you think?

InvisiEvents are unique for exactly all the reasons you can see above: they are fun, free, nontraditional, quirky, empowering, and philanthropic. Why not make hanging out with your friends and family an opportunity to also fundraise for charity?

Why not use your love of hanging out with friends and add a fundraiser element to it—so you pay it forward without having any hassle of developing an event from the ground up?

Why not host a hangout and meet an entire new community of awesome young adults while also fundraising?

Why not partner up with fellow nonprofits and businesses to bring empowerment and kickass joy to lots of young adults to multiple our outreach?

The answer to these questions is simple: InvisiEvents is going to international and we’re making our hangouts and our style of events regular throughout the year! But to do this…we need your help!

Many of you told us which cities you want InvisiYouth to come to next, and we need all your support to bring this to life! We need YOU to help be our cohosts, help us come to your cities and make the events a reality! Whether a brunch, yoga class, cooking day, movie night, sporting activity, painting class, coffee house meetup, wine tasting, or something totally different, we want to know what venues, what locations we can go to next.

If you want to help us bring these events to life, it’s simple—contact us on our website, or DM us on social media by FacebookTwitter or Instagram! We always answer and we want you to join the InvisiYouth family!

WEGO Health Awards 2019 Nominates both InvisiYouth Chat Sessions video podcast and founder Dominique Viel

July 29, 2019

InvisiYouth Charity has felt the love this summer as it was announced InvisiYouth Charity got two nominations with the 2019 WEGO Health Awards. Our video podcast series, InvisiYouth Chat Sessions, was nominated for Best in Show: Podcast, and our Founder/Executive Director, Dominique Viel, was nominated for Patient Leader Hero. WEGO Health is a company that connects millions of engaged healthcare consumers by allowing networks of leading patient advocates to work and collaborate across health conditions, disciplines, and topics.

Every year since 2011, WEGO Health has hosted their awards, a celebration of the world’s leading healthcare advocates, especially in the virtual space! And you know how much we love a good virtual activism platform—just take a look at our video podcast series, downloadable resources and advocacy campaigns! Categories range from Best Video Series and Best Team Performance, to Best Instagram, Healthcare Collaboration Patient, Advocating for One Another and Best Kept Secret.

There are over 6,000 nominees across 15 categories which go through a month of endorsements from the general public and then a judging panel help narrow it down to the short-list nominees per category. And it is from this that the ultimate winners are selected and get to go to Las Vegas, Nevada in October for the actual ceremony.

And what makes these award nominations for Dominique and InvisiYouth Chat Sessions so amazing is that a couple of our Global Brand Leaders are also nominees! Last year, Global Brand Leader-All Star Effie Koliopoulos from Chicago, IL was the winner for Rookie of the Year 2018! This year, our Global Brand Leader Mikaela Basile from Canada is nominated for Best Instagram, while our Global Brand Leader-All Star Madi Vanstone, also from Canada, is nominated for Patient Leader Hero, Best in Show: Podcast, and Advocating for Another.

To see such a strong pull of InvisiYouth Charity team members in the WEGO Health Awards is incredible because it shows how much our activism style affects the larger chronic illness and disability community to nominate all of them.

Lastly, we want to thank YOU for all the endorsements for us! To win these awards would be a dream, and it will definitely give more exposure to InvisiYouth’s programming and in return, give us opportunities for charitable sponsorships and partnerships to reach even more older youth with chronic illnesses and disabilities around the world. So what’s next? Will Dominique, our video podcast series, and our Global Brand Leaders win these WEGO Health Awards? Time will tell and we will keep you in the loop, but nonetheless, nominations are so humbling and we are honored.