Founder Dominique’s Blog Presents … Podcast Master Class Miniseries

September 8th, 2020

It’s not an understatement to say 2020 has been anything but calming or as-planned. Rather it gave room for quite the opposite emotions.  A global health pandemic resulted in many being in quarantine, especially those that are immunosuppressed like myself in the chronic illness and disability communities. As we all have transitioned to being home—many working or studying from home—and we enter the last quarter of the year, lots of people have been searching for new content to bring a boost of energy into their days. Streaming TV series, finding those books we ‘haven’t had time to read’ and adding more fun activities have become part of our new daily regime. And what’s one thing that has been considerably boosted during quarantine and new hybrid work-from-home/schooling-from-home models?

Finding new podcast series to binge or jump into listening!

When the quarantine hit the InvisiYouth HQ of the NYC area, it definitely rocked our nonprofit’s team and we had to not only reevaluate a lot of our programs and plans for the years ahead, but also had to switch to all things virtual and work-from-home. When our video podcast series, InvisiYouth Chat Sessions, had to be put on hiatus (and we just started our third season, so we cannot wait to get back into film-recording!) we switched to creating an Instagram Live miniseries that ran for almost four months!

If you haven’t checked out the InvisiYouth Quarantine Coffee Break miniseries, you must do so ASAP as some of our episodes are on our IGTV.

But something we were thankful for was a project we actually started last year that is all about our love of podcasts and the incredible hosts that lead them! Seeing the wonderful impact podcast shows can have on the young adult community has made us want to highlight some of our most supportive and loved hosts, but also let them share their advice for this generation!

So many of you have asked us what it takes to start a podcast, the advice that we have gotten from our different empowered special guests on InvisiYouth Chat Sessions, and what are some of the dreams that many podcast hosts have for their future shows and community. We wanted to give you advice and tips to podcasting, some life lessons these hosts have gain from their guests, and give you an opportunity to learn more!

I am so excited to share these five incredible podcast series and their wonderful hosts!

Plus, at the end, I’m also going to give you some of the most memorable moments from the InvisiYouth team as we look back on all our episodes of InvisiYouth Chat Sessions.

Please give a listen to all these podcasts, and make sure to subscribe to them too because their shows are so much fun!

Uninvisible Podcast, hosted by Lauren Freeman

Website        Spotify       Apple Podcasts       Instagram        Twitter       Facebook

• What’s your podcast’s description/all about? 

A: Uninvisible Pod is a show about chronic and invisible illness – from the perspective of patients, caregivers, and practitioners across the spectrum of healing modalities.

• What inspired you to make this podcast? 

A: Like so many others in the Spoonie community and beyond, I got inspired…when I got sick. In 2017, I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s disease and sleep apnea; I’ve also lived with depression and anxiety since I was a teen. I’d been working in the women’s health activism space, and it shocked me how many people in my network started coming out of the woodwork with thyroid disorders and various invisible conditions – that we’d NEVER talked about – when I went public with my news. My background is in acting and voice work – so it felt incredibly natural to give these enlightening conversations a platform, or a soapbox, if you will – by way of recording them. And I haven’t looked back!

• What is a favorite or memorable episode so far?

A: Too many – these episodes have become so personally meaningful and fostered amazing new relationships that have enriched my life in so many ways. I definitely fangirled HARD over Ilana Jacqueline (ep 43), laughed out loud with Karyn Buxman (ep 37), and learned amazing things from Sascha Alexander (eps 25, and 19) and Ariel of @carpe_that__diem (eps 40 and 41… but perhaps most meaningful to me have been the episodes when longtime friends allowed me to help them share their stories. Because of my interviews with Katie Georgiou (ep 10) and Dr. Harold Kraft (ep 7), Katie’s been offered free treatment for her MS and will be here in LA receiving it by the time this writing goes live; my friend Dayna Schaaf has been my rock, and decided to join the Spoonie club with an undiagnosed condition she talks about in ep 8; and one of my oldest friends, Clare Stafford, talked about surviving breast cancer – twice – in her 30s! – in ep 44. Also – my friend and former America’s Next Top Model contestant Mercedes Shorte (ep 1) was not only my first subject on the show…but also the first interview I recorded! Having InvisiYouth founder Dominique on the show (ep 18) was also an amazing experience. Her story is…WOW! This show is the best kind of rollercoaster!

• What’s a piece of advice you’ve gained from a guest on an episode? 

A: I always ask my guests for tips, so there are a lot of great answers to this question. But I think my favorite is: be open to trying something new – start thinking outside the box. This also means – seek second opinions, ask questions, and know that there is hope. Be curious, and be prepared not only to learn from yourself – but to be surprised.

• What’s something you’ve learned from being a podcast host?

A: Not a single one of us is alone. It doesn’t matter how complicated or weird or taboo or tough your condition is – you’re not the only one out there. Even with a super rare disease. There are others like you – you just need to look for them.

• What’s some advice you’ve gotten to pass along to new podcasters?

A: Have fun. At the end of the day, this is an investment of your time and resources – so make sure you’re finding joy in it. But also: be a responsible host. Ask the tough questions. Take the reins. Dig deep. It’s your journalistic duty in a post-truth world.

• If you could set a dream episode for your show, who would be part of it? What would it cover? 

A: JAMEELA JAMIL! She’s my Spoonie hero…but also I want to be her best friend! Not only is she blazing trails because of her outspokenness, but her relatability is exactly what makes her appealing. You don’t even have to be a Spoonie to dig what she’s about! I’d want to delve into the overlapping elements of invisibility not only in her experience as a WOC with invisible illness…but also those layers in the lives of individuals she’s met since starting @i_weigh, and how they’ve expanded her perspective. And I’d want to talk about the role of empathy in the future of healthcare, and how she sees that concept developing into…something, perhaps?…more functional for both doctors and patients.

 

Headcase Podcast, hosted by Stephanie Hoffmann

Website        Apple Podcasts        Spotify        Pippa        Instagram

•  What’s your podcast’s description/all about?

A: My podcast surrounds mental health, awareness and wellness. My goal is breaks down the boundaries of this taboo subject by diving deep into the world of mental health and all that relates to it. This show establishes real and honest mental health conversation through stories and discussions straight from the people who’ve experienced them. HeadCase’s purpose is to spread awareness and end the stigma by enlightening audiences on the lack of education, information and options for those who suffer through or are directly affected by it. HeadCase is the podcast you’ve been ANXIOUSLY waiting for.

• What inspired you to make this podcast?

A: What inspired me to make this podcast initially was a concussion I suffered that unleashed many side effects from beneath the surface. Primarily anxiety and depression and it stopped my life in my tracks and to this day is something I struggle with. I wanted a place where everyone could discuss whatever it is they’re going through without judgement, fear or hesitation.

•  Favorite/A memorable episode so far?

A: One of my most memorable episodes, although all of them are unique, would have to be the episode titles Sensitive to a Fault with Hannah Blum. It was the first time I got any real understanding of Bipolar 2 disorder and a raw explanation of of her experience in a mental institution.

• What’s a piece of advice you gained from a guest on an episode?

A: I’ve learned so much from all my guests. I think the main thing I gain is that no matter how bad things may seem or get, there truly is a light at the end, even if it doesn’t shine every day, doesn’t mean you give up on yourself or your life.

•  What’s something you’ve learned as a podcast host?

A: I’ve learned what it is to truly listen, not just hear. It’s made me a more empathetic person than I already was! And ongoing, I’m learning to speak better publicly.

• What’s some advice you’ve gotten that you’d pass along to new podcast hosts?

A: I would say, try not to talk over or interrupt your guest, pace yourself so you don’t step on your own words and be calm! Let your personality shine through that microphone— (which you should never have more or less than 4 inches from your mouth.

• If you could set a dream episode for your show, who would be on it? What would it cover?

A: I have so many dream guests I’d like to talk to. Lately, I’ve been noticing how active Justin Bieber has been in the mental health world and I’d love to hear his whole story as told from a real, raw and honest place that people may not have heard yet. Other guests I always think about having on are Jay Shetty, Russell Brand, Kevin Love and Pete Davidson. The list truly goes on but I’m thankful for all the guests I get because being candidly open is extremely brave, famous or not.

 

The Women Wave, hosted by Sterling Cates and Tricia Cleppes

Website          Apple Podcasts          Spotify          Instagram

  • What’s your podcast’s description/all about?

A: The Women Wave is a multimedia creative house that produces empowered content for women. At TWW, we encourage women to authentically connect and get involved in the world around them. In addition to an online community of women and IRL events, we have a weekly podcast that comes out every Thursday that covers everything from personal experiences, to politics, pop culture, and more. Each week, you can expect a bold, inspiring, and unfiltered conversation.

  • What inspired you to make this podcast?

A: The Women Wave came to be when we realized we weren’t the only women craving authentic conversations about our experiences. As long distance best friends in constant communication (bless you, FaceTime) about our lives and the world around us, we decided to make our private conversations public, creating space for other women to be just as vulnerable and supported. With so much going on right now, we figured we couldn’t be the only ones trying to figure it all out. We were right — and the best thing happened, now we get to do it with all of YOU!

  • What’s a favorite or memorable episode so far?

A: It’s so hard to choose a favorite because every week is so incredibly different! Over the past 106+ episodes, we’ve laughed (a lot), cried (a lot), and really explored topical stories in ways we didn’t know possible. One great thing about having this platform is we get to express our civic duty and rights, like protest and organizing. When there were families being separated at the border, we had a platform to spread awareness, research, and resources in the form of an emergency minisode.

On weeks where we may be traveling or can’t cover that week’s news, we’ll pre-record episodes where we take deep dives in to 1-2 topics or answer listener questions — which gives us a rare opportunity to dig deep, discover some gems and help our audience get to know us more. Here are a couple of our favorites. Do The Work (Episode 98) and No One Asked, We Answered (Episode 96).

  • What’s a piece of advice you’ve gained from a guest on an episode?

A: We have a bi-monthly series on our website called Women Making Waves, where we feature badass women who are playing active roles in making waves in their communities (which is how we connected with Dominique and InvisiYouth!). We have learned SO MUCH from each and every woman we’ve had the privilege of interviewing. We recapped some of the highlights on Episode 96, Lessons in Boldness from Women Making Waves. To point a quote out in particular, we refer back to this one a lot from Gender Equity Now’s Executive Director, Sara Sanford: “I’ve acted out of fear and I’ve acted out of bravery. I can’t think of a single time in which I acted out of fear that I would look back on and say, “I’m so glad I was timid. I’m glad I dimmed my light.” Whatever the thing is that you fear, it still comes for you. Wouldn’t you rather it came for you knowing you were true to yourself, that you had acted with integrity? Aren’t you coming out of that fire with your head held higher? I’ve endured consequences for being bold, and I don’t regret a single one of those decisions. If a job or a relationship doesn’t thrive in the midst of your strength, it means it’s not right for you; it doesn’t have enough to offer back to you. If you act boldly, you will find the people and the work that honor your strength – but you won’t get to that place by acting out of fear.” FIRE TWEET.

• What’s something you’ve learned from being a podcast host?

A: The nature of our podcast keeps us accountable for doing the work and doing the research. Each week we challenge ourselves by keeping up with the news and what’s going on in the world around us. It can be exhausting, yes, but ultimately it fuels our curiosity and desire to spark similar dialogue in our listeners own lives. We’ve also learned that vulnerability breeds vulnerability. By being willing to come to the table as we are, we’re creating a space for others to do the same. We’ve gotten so many wonderful messages from our community members who have similar stories or who were inspired to do something by something we said – and that’s an extremely humbling and motivating feeling. That connection keeps us going!

• What’s some advice you’ve gotten that you would pass along to new podcast hosts? 

A: Start. We didn’t have it all figured out when we decided we wanted to start a podcast – we just started. This whole thing has been through so many phases (#same), and ultimately hasn’t been the most by-the-book journey, but it’s been ours and it’s been beautiful. We are all works in progress, and that includes our expressions of creativity. Aside from that, don’t allow all the blogs out there to intimidate you – you don’t need the fanciest equipment or millions of dollars behind your podcast. You don’t need sponsorships to have a platform. If you’re committed to consistency and have a desire to use your voice in this way, just do it! And yes, do your research. 😉 Go in with a vision and a why. Our vision was to make our private conversations public. Why? We believe women are craving authentic connection and reassurance that they are not alone. Despite having gone through a rebrand and the natural evolution of this project, our vision and our why has never wavered.

If you could set a dream episode for your show, who would be part of it? What would it cover?

A: We sometimes lovingly say that our podcast is just a recap our Oprah’s Super Soul Conversations, so we think we’d have to say the obvious answer here: Oprah. There would be birds chirping as we sit with her on her Maui estate’s lawn. We would talk honestly about fear, resilience, purpose and the power of being a woman.  After we finish up she’d call Gayle and Stedman and we’d all make dinner using ingredients hand-harvested from Oprah’s famous garden. Then she would turn to us and say, “You know, after our interview today you’ve convinced me: I am running for President. Oh and also, you can live here if you want.” …Oh sorry, did we go too far?

In Visibility  Today, hosted by Laura Elliot

SoundCloud     Apple Podcasts    Patreon     Twitter Podcast     Twitter for Laura

  • What’s your podcast’s description/all about?

A: In Visibility Today is a (usually!) monthly podcast featuring an extended interview between me and another disabled or chronically ill guest, covering topics ranging from politics, culture, activism, art, and everything in between. The tag line is: sharing who and what’s visible in disability, and every month (my own health allowing), I aim to provide a platform for someone with a chronic illness or disability to share the work they’re doing within and outside of the community.

• What inspired you to make this podcast?

A: Before I became disabled, I completed my MA in Broadcast Journalism, so when I became housebound in 2016 one of the things I really missed was working in a radio newsroom. I decided to use the skills I still had to provide a platform for people like me to share their work and experiences outside of the mainstream media. As well as offering that platform, it’s also been a valuable way for me to learn about disability and chronic illness as a newcomer to this community. I intended the podcast to help other people learn about disability and other topics, and to understand that life doesn’t stop with disability, but actually, I think I’ve ended up learning more than anyone from my guests!

• What is a favorite or memorable episode from your podcast so far?

A: There have been so many it’s very hard to pick! Some highlights include speaking to Eugene Grant about compiling his own library of dwarfism history (his preferred phrasing), and interviewing Gail Ward from Disabled People Against Cuts in the UK, who have been fundamental in challenging the current government on the impact of their austerity measures on disabled people. I’ve also loved talking to author Lydia Ruffles about how chronic migraine lead to her writing her first YA novel, and writer and performer Sabrina Richmond about incorporating British Sign Language into her theatrical work.

• What’s a piece of advice you’ve gained from a guest on an episode?

A: I think the best piece of advice I got was from Sabrina, who spoke very eloquently about making autobiographical work, and the importance of defining how much of yourself you’re willing to share with an audience. She said she always tried to find that balance between honesty and vulnerability, and protecting her own privacy and the important parts of herself that aren’t for public consumption, by asking: will I still feel comfortable with this three months from now, when the adrenaline has faded and the work has already been shared?

• What’s something you’ve learned from being a podcast host?

A: I’ve learnt just how many incredible disabled people there are out there doing so much awesome work! Coming from mainstream media into a much more niche, homebound format has narrowed my focus, and it’s been a privilege to learn about various topics more in-depth than I’d ever have been able to do in a newsroom. Also, the importance of letting a conversation flow naturally, and not being afraid of the mic!

• What is some advice you’ve gotten to pass along to new podcast hosts? 

A: Try not to be too performative when you’re running the show. It’s tempting to over-compensate because obviously you’re relying purely on audio, but the best podcasts feel like being invited into someone’s living room for a chat, so just relax, and enjoy the conversation as you’re recording. Oh – and make sure you actually hit “record”!

 

• If you could set a dream episode for your show, who would be part of it? What would it cover?

A: I have two dream guests that I’d love to have on, and they are Frances Ryan, a journalist at The Guardian, and Jack Monroe, an author, cookbook writer, and campaigner in the UK. I’d love to talk to Frances about working as a disabled freelance journalist with a focus on disability rights and austerity, and how she manages her health and her investigative work. And I’d love to talk to Jack about their adaptive techniques cooking and writing, and their extensive knowledge of diet and health.

Made Visible, hosted by Harper Spero

Website       Apple Podcast        Spotify        Stitcher        Overcast        Google Play

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• What’s your podcast’s description/all about?

A: Made Visible is a podcast that gives a voice to people with invisible illnesses. This podcast aims to change the conversation around invisible illnesses, helping those who experience them–whether as patients, caregivers, or friends or family members–feel more seen and heard. There’s no blueprint about how to live with an invisible illness, or how to be there for someone who has one. The goal of Made Visible is to help people living with invisible illnesses feel less alone as they strive to create a “normal” life, while also creating a new awareness of how we can be sensitive and supportive to people who are navigating these conditions. We never truly know what another person is going through unless we ask, listen, and do our best to understand.

• What inspired you to make this podcast?

A: I spent the first 27 years of my life hiding my invisible illness because I felt so much shame about it, and wanted to fit in. After undergoing a major surgery in 2012 where I could no longer hide my health, I started sharing my story and health challenges with friends and family and felt like I peeled off a layer that had been protecting me. Additionally, I started writing about it and found that my story and experiences resonated with others. But, as I searched for outlets and stories that were focused on invisible illness, I felt like I couldn’t always find content I related to. As an avid podcast listener, I decided to create the content I wanted to consume in podcast form. Thus, in July 2018, Made Visible was born!

• What’s your most memorable or favorite episode so far?

A: There are so many! I don’t play favorites. An episode I enjoyed was with Jaime Walden (Episode 56) who lives with Crohn’s disease. What I loved most about Jaime was that she didn’t hold back–she shared so much of her life, her health and the real struggles she faces while managing this illness…many of which are not so fun to talk about. She brought a lot of humor into our conversation.

• What’s a piece of advice you’ve gained from a guest on an episode?

A: Letty Cottin Pogrebin (Episode 30) talked about the importance of treating people like humans, not as patients. If you’re looking to support someone who is managing an invisible condition, it’s important to identify the things they love and how you can continue to make those things part of their life. Offer to bring them their favorite meal (or just show up with it!) instead of assuming they want soup.

• What’s something you’ve learned from being a podcast host?

A: I’ve been listening to podcasts for a while and when I started this I wanted to ensure that the content did not get stale. Over time, I have worked really hard to make sure I come up with unique questions, listen intently to my guests, and create diverse content so it never becomes repetitive. I never want someone to feel the way I have with other shows and get bored and stop listening.

• What’s some advice you’ve gotten you would pass along to new podcast hosts? 

A: Screen your guests in advance. Ensure they are media trained and good storytellers. Also, if you’re going through an assistant, publicist or manager, ensure the guest you’re recording with knows the premise of the show. This seems obvious but I’ve had a guest record and then ask me what the theme of the show is.

• If you could set a dream episode for your show, who would be part of it? What would it cover?

A: I have been watching Selma Blair’s journey with multiple sclerosis over the last year and am so thrilled to see her willingness to share so much of her day-to-day challenges. It’s important for people of influence to share their stories and help others know they’re not alone. I would love to interview her and talk about the process of deciding to share, how she chooses what she shares and when, and what it’s like to be a mother living with an invisible illness that’s becoming increasingly less invisible.

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Want to know another special addition to this epic InvisiYouth Podcast MasterClass Mini Series?? It’s my selection of some of my favorite episodes of InvisiYouth Chat Sessions!! And this was TOO HARD because we love something about every episode and each wonderful guest! But here are some of my MUST-WATCH and MUST-LISTEN episode from our podcast series!

Season One, Episode 14

For forever, my favorite is our tribute episode to my friend, and one of the best cystic fibrosis activists, Claire Wineland. I was planning with Claire her guest appearance for Season One before she passed away, and I decided to switch around and create a memory episode filled with Claire’s best YouTube moments. Highlight: getting to have Claire’s mom, Melissa, as the special guest because she’s one of the kindest souls I have met. It’s been two years since Claire passed away, and still to this day, I will watch this episode and feel the love Claire was always able to bring into the room.

YouTube        Apple Podcasts        Spotify        Google Play

Season Two Episode 26

Season Two ended with a dream guest, Diversability’s CEO and founder Tiffany Yu. In the early stages of InvisiYouth Chat Sessions development, we made a wishlist of powerful women in the chronic illness and disability space we’d love to have as a guest and Tiffany was on the top of that list. Her episode has an impactful discussion on the importance of good allyship and life lessons we still get comments about from people finding our series with E26.

YouTube        Apple Podcasts        Spotify        Google Play

Season Two Episode 24

Fun Fact: This episode is our most viewed YouTube video AND most popular audio podcast! And with the Kowlessars chatting about relationships with chronic illness, I know why! Anna (founder of People Hope) and her husband Randy have a a dynamic of fun, love, and passion that makes them guests you’ll be hooked to listen to from the first minute. I had the most laughs filming with them, and every listener will share this podcast to friends, it’s so good! Also BTS: we had technical difficulties and had to re-record the episode entirely again, so I got to experience two completely different episodes with Anna and Randy!

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Season One Episode 7 and Season Two Episode 25

Our only returning podcast guest of InvisiYouth Chat Sessions is also one of my greatest friends and BOTH of his episodes are podcast gems! Cystic fibrosis activist, producer, and author Travis Flores brought two completely different tones to both episodes and that diversity makes him a standout guest. The friendship with me and Travis is such fun and clear in both E7 and E25 so you feel like you’re just hanging out with some new friends!

YouTube Epi7        Apple Podcasts  Epi7      Spotify Epi7        Google Play Epi7

YouTube Epi25        Apple Podcasts  Epi25      Spotify Epi25        Google Play Epi25

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When I decided to create this Podcast MasterClass, there were a ton of series that our team immediately mentioned that they were huge fans of too. It started when I began developing the premise of InvisiYouth Chat Sessions being the vocal point of our virtual programming. I was finding all these wonderful podcasts, hosted by these talented and diverse people and I was being inspired about the show I was creating for InvisiYouth Charity that I knew could hopefully become an addition to this list of shows I love.

And now InvisiYouth’s team has created our honorable mentions of top podcast picks.

*fun fact: I’ve been a special guest on some of these shows too!

Bit Different Pod        Chronic But Iconic        What Fulfills You?        Hey, Girl

Two Disabled Dudes     Call Your Girlfriend     Sickboy     The Gurls Talk Podcast

Disabled to Enabled    Point of Pain    Gentler Pod     This is Not What I Ordered

Please give a listen to all these podcasts that I am chatting about because they are AMAZING, their hosts are BADASSES, and I am a mega fan of all of them, and feel like I grow as a podcast host because of them too. Make sure to subscribe to their series, AND SUBSCRIBE TO INVISIYOUTH CHAT SESSIONS TOO too because their shows are so much fun!  We learn when we are open-minded, curious and eager to become better people, so when you listen to podcasts, you are truly getting to become a student again, be entertained, and feel that human connection. It’s why I love podcasting, and why I love that InvisiYouth Chat Sessions gets to be the focal point of our virtual programming. Lots of love!

~Dominique, founder and executive director

WEGO Health Awards 2019 Nominates both InvisiYouth Chat Sessions video podcast and founder Dominique Viel

July 29, 2019

InvisiYouth Charity has felt the love this summer as it was announced InvisiYouth Charity got two nominations with the 2019 WEGO Health Awards. Our video podcast series, InvisiYouth Chat Sessions, was nominated for Best in Show: Podcast, and our Founder/Executive Director, Dominique Viel, was nominated for Patient Leader Hero. WEGO Health is a company that connects millions of engaged healthcare consumers by allowing networks of leading patient advocates to work and collaborate across health conditions, disciplines, and topics.

Every year since 2011, WEGO Health has hosted their awards, a celebration of the world’s leading healthcare advocates, especially in the virtual space! And you know how much we love a good virtual activism platform—just take a look at our video podcast series, downloadable resources and advocacy campaigns! Categories range from Best Video Series and Best Team Performance, to Best Instagram, Healthcare Collaboration Patient, Advocating for One Another and Best Kept Secret.

There are over 6,000 nominees across 15 categories which go through a month of endorsements from the general public and then a judging panel help narrow it down to the short-list nominees per category. And it is from this that the ultimate winners are selected and get to go to Las Vegas, Nevada in October for the actual ceremony.

And what makes these award nominations for Dominique and InvisiYouth Chat Sessions so amazing is that a couple of our Global Brand Leaders are also nominees! Last year, Global Brand Leader-All Star Effie Koliopoulos from Chicago, IL was the winner for Rookie of the Year 2018! This year, our Global Brand Leader Mikaela Basile from Canada is nominated for Best Instagram, while our Global Brand Leader-All Star Madi Vanstone, also from Canada, is nominated for Patient Leader Hero, Best in Show: Podcast, and Advocating for Another.

To see such a strong pull of InvisiYouth Charity team members in the WEGO Health Awards is incredible because it shows how much our activism style affects the larger chronic illness and disability community to nominate all of them.

Lastly, we want to thank YOU for all the endorsements for us! To win these awards would be a dream, and it will definitely give more exposure to InvisiYouth’s programming and in return, give us opportunities for charitable sponsorships and partnerships to reach even more older youth with chronic illnesses and disabilities around the world. So what’s next? Will Dominique, our video podcast series, and our Global Brand Leaders win these WEGO Health Awards? Time will tell and we will keep you in the loop, but nonetheless, nominations are so humbling and we are honored.

When You’ve Got Health Hindsight: My 10-Year Anniversary with Chronic Illness

December 30, 2018

Well hello again, long time, no blog! It has clearly been a while since my last founder’s blog, but that’s just because InvisiYouth Charity has been keeping me so damn busy. (*and if you’ve been keeping up with InvisiYouth, you’ve gotten to know the reason for that is our new video podcast series, InvisiYouth Chat Sessions, which I am the hostwhich will be continuing throughout 2019*)

So, let’s get real for a minute.

One thing I’m a firm believer in is to always celebrate your small victories, and especially while you live with chronic illness/disability. You should be proud of all you achieve, regardless of the scale. But one of our volunteers reminded me of a milestone I just reached—10 years since the injury that caused the snowball of chronic illness into my life.

I’m aware it may see odd to celebrate my chronic illnesses. And yes, they really did take my life from me while my illnesses were a daily torture, but living with health struggles has also given me a life, a new normality, that I am incredibly proud of. While that’s my optimism trying to stay in focus, I refuse to stay in a mindset of resentment for my life.

As a resident “oldie” of my illness for a decade, I wanted to share my hindsight of life with chronic illnesses and the top 10 things I’ve learned after these 10 years:

#1 Diagnosis Won’t Be a Magic Wand, But It Sure Feels Nice

This is probably one of the biggest things I’ve gained hindsight on, while also being the most controversial.  It took me years to get proper diagnosis, years with mistreatment that could have improved my now-quality of life, but there’s something anyone that reads my work will notice. I rarely write down my diagnoses, and there’s a reason. Still to this day, I have had diagnoses given to me and taken away, some putting “undiagnosed” in front new diagnoses in my medical charts while others were certain. I used to put so much pressure on getting the name, getting the diagnosis and THEN I would be able to go through recovery and my new way of living. I wanted some claim of community for what I experienced. But even when I got one, it didn’t change much for me.  I still heard from doctors “well, this isn’t an illness we can cure, so we can just help you cope with it.”  The longer I lived without diagnosis, the longer I realized that it would not ‘fix’ what I was experiencing in my daily life.  Now yes, I am very aware some illnesses have amazing treatment which you get from a proper diagnosis, and that a diagnosis can really validate the patient experience because it allows them to belong and justify their health struggles. But for so many, the diagnosis isn’t the “cure it” pill, but rather the name we get to identify with. In hindsight, I learned that a diagnosis was less of a magic wand, and more of an identity helper and validation tool. I know I relate to a few different chronic illness communities, and my doctors are doing all they can to help with my health’s symptomatic issues, so a word doesn’t hold as much weight to me anymore.

#2 Celebrate the Small Daily Wins, Not Your “Literal” Falls

So often, we focus on what our bodies limit us from doing, what our chronic illnesses have taken away from our lives.  And that Negative-Nancy mindset can do a lot of damage on your emotional wellbeing when all your mental energy is focused on what goes wrong in your day and your health. When one thing goes wrong, it can feel like a domino-effect, or in my case, my own literal falls (since that tends to happen a lot). But when you’ve lived with a chronic illness for years, you gain a retrospective mindset because you’re able to look back on the periods of bad and good health. It makes you realize that if you celebrated those wins, all those days—or even hours—of stable, good health, then you’d be able to feel achievement and pride.

You’d be able to realize the focus of your energy is better served on those good moments, instead of all the setbacks and bad days.  I remember hearing the notion “every day may not be a great day, but you can find something great in each day” and that was what I began to live by a few years into my health journey.  Even if the best thing that happened was that I got out of bed, it was at least one thing I did well that day. When I gave full over-the-top celebration on each of my little wins with my health, it made my mentality more positive. It would start to feel oddly annoying when I had health setbacks because I wasn’t focused on the bad it caused in my life for most each year. The goal was to never give my chronic illnesses more power than they already had, so daily mini-winning parties for me.

#3 Become Your Best Researcher, Advocate and Nurse (knowledge=EMpowerED)

Knowledge is power. You need to be able to fight for your rights, for what you need to best help your life with health struggles.  So much was bounced over me, especially when I was a teenager and still a minor in the eyes of the medical community. That may have been the case, but it was still my body, my health, and my life.  I was lucky…my mom is an incredible nurse and has instilled in me the idea that no one will be a better advocate than YOU, so ask all the questions, inquire and research anything that may be done for you, and always get a second opinion on major medical decisions. I was taught how to advocate for my medical needs, how to research on the treatment options, to ask accurate questions, and have intelligent discussions with my doctors.  But this is not something everyone knows right when their health declines, it’s a trait to learn and sharpen.  With hindsight, I know that my health deserved my research and support to improve. I hear from lots of young adults that work with InvisiYouth “I’m the best researcher and nurse for my chronic illnesses, because I know my health and life better than anyone.”

#4 Reminiscing About the Past Can Hurt Sometimes

We can always learn from our past, but when you have a specific marker that defines “before I got sick” and “after I got injured” your past can feel bittersweet. I used to always focus on my past and feel like I wasn’t progressing enough with my health, that my chronic illnesses had done so much damage to my life.  And in a way, that could be true. The dream of playing tennis competitively on the pro-circuit died, my social network diminished, and my physical health deteriorated. But it didn’t mean I wasn’t still living my life or I wasn’t proud of the life I was building. So, when I constantly was looking at what my illnesses had taken from me, I was damaging my emotional wellbeing, and that began to hurt. My past with pristine health is something I love, and now I look at it with a great deal of fondness. But the way I’ve handled it is to look at it in those two separate parts: the before and after. If I stay in a mindset of “what ifs” then I lose my positivity, and that is not something I am willing to do. I have learned over the years since my injury, I have learned to have respect for all the years of my life, and to never feel bad or ashamed of my illnesses. By doing that, I don’t focus on what my past looked like, but rather how I have strengthened into the woman I am, how I’ve become more empathic and how I have been able to thrive in my life. I focus on the now, while giving importance to the past and future when it relates to my memories and my dreams, or my medical history, of course!

#5 Let Yourself WallowBut You Only Get One Hour

People have this ideal notion that you’ve got to be happy all the time. That if you feel sadness as a direct effect of your chronic illness/disability, you are not fighting hard enough for your health. I started to feel like I needed to be positive, to always find the goodness in my struggles, because people were “inspired” by my inner fight and “motivated” by my positive outlook.  And while that is true, that is because I let myself grieve my old life and feel for the literal pain and discomfort I have each day.  I can be strong and positive because I know when to let myself feel bad.  With a decade of chronic illness-life under my belt, I can see it was a great decision to let myself wallow for all my chronic illnesses have pained me. But what I learned is now the advice I give: allow yourself time to wallow, but make sure it only maxs out at one hour. I give myself this time limit for a reason.  If I let myself continue to feel bad about my health struggles, it will fester and to climb out of that depressive dark hole is a huge challenge. But you should be allowed to experience all the emotions of life with health struggles. You are a human being and that spectrum of emotions deserves to be felt. It is something that has worked so well for me because I allow myself to feel all the sadness and mourning and pain that is physically tortuous on my health, but I never let it overtake me.  Sit in your emotions, but know you are in just as much control of your life as your chronic illness/disability is of your physical health. When I realized my own strength, but also allowed myself to feel bad, it allowed that positive mindset to shine, so let that positive focus to thrive be your superior emotion.

#6 Be Fearless to Help Yourself in Public. You Won’t See those Judgy Strangers Again

To this day, my friends will say they know the minimum about my health struggles—many of them not even knowing the extent till they came to InvisiYouth fundraisers or my public speaking engagements. But that decision was because I was always a private person, and never felt the details needed to be shared.  I relied on the invisible nature of my chronic illnesses so it would never be the first thing people noticed about me. But when my symptoms and health struggles expanded into the physical, everyone would notice, feel pity, or ask prying questions. After a couple years of worrying about what others thought, I spoke with my mom and she got real with me. “Why are you worrying about people’s opinions? You never see them again, and it’s just stressing you out unnecessarily.” I flipped a switch and stopped caring about the wandering eyes and whispered comments. We’ve got lots to worry about with chronic illness, so worrying about what other people are judging us for when they pass by should NOT be on the list. They are strangers and not substance to what makes you who you are. And let’s get real…even I fall victim to worrying about what others think on occasion.

Recently, I went into NYC for a brunch with this lovely British blogger while she, her older brother and her boyfriend were celebrating her brother’s birthday. At that time, I had to use a cane and on my commute, I used it and got lots of stares that it didn’t faze me. But the moment I got to the restaurant, I put the cane away to make sure they did not know my medical status. I hid the cane in my bag, suffered the few steps to our table and back outside without these three new friends knowing anything. And the second I was out of sight, I grabbed my cane. Even I have moments of self-doubt, but I don’t let them define me. I could have used my cane in front of them (her brother has one of the same chronic illnesses I do) but for that 20% of my day, I concealed my reality. That is okay…because 80% is greater than 20% and I made it a point to use my cane for all my meetings, family gatherings and shopping trips in the days after. Because I am fearlessly confident with my chronic illnesses, and moments don’t define a life!

#7 Even in the Hard Days, Just Try to Laugh Because It Helps You Cope

With InvisiYouth and in my daily life, I firmly believe that laughter is the best medicine. For me, I have truly seen the way my humor, or blunt sarcasm, has helped me cope with my chronic illnesses. When things get bad medically and you’re told your limitations, I found humor was not just a cushion from my harsh reality, but a way I could look at life.  Humor supports your emotions. And sometimes with all life can throw at you when you’re living with chronic illness, you just want to laugh so you don’t cry. But I also view laughter not just as literal laughing at my medical problems, but experiencing humorous moments too! When I wasn’t as mobile or active in my past, I would find TV shows, YouTube channels or movies that would make me laugh.  Even if it was as basic as TV show review podcasts, if it got me to laugh while my health struggles were tragic, then all was being done well.  Sometimes we need to take our chronic illnesses/ disability seriously, focus on how our bodies can manage hour-by-hour, handle new treatments or hospital stays. The need for humor in our lives should to be prominent too. How else can you handle diagnosis, setbacks and side effects unless you laugh at your bad days? In hindsight, I can easily say my dark humor is one of the largest factors that got me through my lowest lows, and got me to the stage of my new normal ten years later!

#8 Body Positivity ≠ 24/7 Body Confidence

It used to feel like such a challenge to remain confident about my body for a couple reasons. Firstly, I have a distinct “pre-illness” life I can remember before the injury. And I had a competitive athlete’s teenager physique, so there had to be a deep acceptance my body may never look that way again. Secondly, my health struggles are physically taxing, so I go from living with an invisible illness to an illness that morphed, damaged and scarred parts of my body. It’s literally painful to use my entire left side, and even though a decade into it, I’ve learned how to live this new normality with quality, it means I “workout to be in shape” more uniquely than most. But the truest way I’ve gained confidence with my body is finding an appreciation that it does work for me. I’m grateful when I can climb a flight of stairs because I remember when that wasn’t possible. I am the only one that must live in my skin, so if I’m not going to find my body beautiful, it won’t matter if anyone else does. So, I have learned over these 10 years to find confidence in the functional body I have to work with, instead of desperately desiring more toned legs or smaller hips and a slimmer face. And now, I have such a respect for what this body of mine is capable of, the battle scars I find sexy and the imperfections that make me the woman I am. This body has fought my chronic illnesses with me, and that helps with my body positive mindset.

#9 Ask for Help When You Need it and That Will Make You Stronger

How I wish I accepted this earlier! When I was in the early stages of health struggles, I hated asking for help. It felt like a defeat or failure. Like my hours of physical therapy, focus on treatments and doctor visits hadn’t worked and I wasn’t doing enough. But what took me years to realize was a simple fact: Even my friends without chronic illness/disability needed to ask for help at times. Now granted, my requests and needs are a bit more major and frequent, but looking back, I made my daily life harder than necessary to live without asking for help. I physically struggled walking and interacting in classes because I didn’t want anyone to know it was hard for me.

I strained my limitations to meet deadlines, which caused medical setbacks that left me weeks to recover.  But asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but rather, it is a sign of strength. You are so connected with your medical needs that you are willing to gain support to achieve goals. That makes you stronger than anyone because you know what your goals are and have passion to get things done, and those are signs of an independent and successful person. I started to become less afraid of saying “Can you help me?” or “Do you know how to adapt this to what I can do?” Word of advice: ask for help because you want to live your life with purpose, and while it’s totally normal to feel like you’re bothering people, realize each supporter will make you stronger.

#10 Don’t Fake Smile to Pacify Others. YOU are the Only One Living This Life

I could not have picked a better piece of reflection on my ten years of chronic illness life than this one. As I began to live my life with chronic illness longer and longer, my health became my identifier. I was no longer just Dominique, but the ‘sick’ friend. I wasn’t part of the conversation, but the full medical dictionary to the questions thrown at me. And the more I interacted with “healthy/able-bodied” people, the more I ‘put on’ a happy face. I felt guilty if other people knew how bad things were medically because it felt like they were going to start pitying me more too. I pacified others constantly being “the happy, strong girl with health struggles” who never complained and always said “it’s okay.” But the only person that it was affecting was me.  It was me who had to put extra energy into “feeling as healthy as I looked” and that wasn’t fair. I learned since I was the one person that had to live inside this body all year-round, I had to find ways to adapt to it.  And if my illness struggles bothered people, if my realness was too much, then that had to be okay, and they were not the right people to have in my life. Don’t hide how you are feeling from other people. Life isn’t perfect, it is multi-faceted and messy at times, and don’t make everyone around you comfortable when you are not. Live your life the way you want to live it. And the people that love and respect you, the people that are the most compassionate are the same people that will stick around during all your “faces of emotions” and will open their minds and hearts to empathize with your experiences.

When you were not born with a disability or chronic illness, 10 years of health struggles is a long time.  It takes up such a part of way you live and view the world and yourself.  And that lets you take a step back, and learn and appreciate all you’ve experienced. Dig deep and you will be proud of the thriving life you make for yourself with all its medical quirks and adaptations, trust me!

~Dominique

InvisiYouth Charity Launches Video Podcast Series as First of Virtual Programming

April 1st, 2018

The wait is finally over, and after over year of preparation, InvisiYouth Charity will be launching its Virtual Programming. This is begin in May with our video podcast series, InvisiYouth Chat Sessions! It is to be hosted by our founder and executive director, Dominique Viel, who is taking her public speaking background and flipping it behind the mic to host our series.

We often discuss at InvisiYouth that traditional methods of providing educational resources, to provide outlets of confidence or empowerment tools, does not gear itself to the young adult demographic. It was imperative for InvisiYouth Charity to not only lean into our virtual platform, but to also make sure it was accessible. Our series will be a video podcast so it can be inclusive to the hearing-impaired community with our YouTube channel for the visual show, and accommodating to the visually impaired community with our audio podcast show being on NINE podcast platforms (we’ll list those at the end, no worries!). Our nonprofit loves being a fully inclusive community so to have a series that anyone could access was important.

Also, an immediate uniqueness to InvisiYouth Chat Sessions is that it’s unlike any other chronic illness/disability or lifestyle podcast out there. No, we don’t follow the traditional interview profile, and we don’t have solo shows.  Each episode is designed for our special guests, and it is laid out like a late-night chat show. We have funny segments, rapid fire questions, majorly deep conversations, top five checklist creations, impactful or funny life story-telling, and even segments based off Tinder…so you know it’s going to be a crazy hour every episode.

The tagline defines the show quickly: Check in for a dose of stigma-breaking, humor-filling, empowerment-building life hacks and motivation tips for all the “medically adult-ish”™ young people.

It is a biweekly video podcast when we’ll bring guest experts from all illness/disability communities, like mental health, rare disease and bereavement, to YouTubers, activists, adaptive athletes and actors, that are YA game-changers to tackle topics that are often too taboo, uncomfortable or common sense, while providing some lifestyle management and tips.  InvisiYouth strives that is aids young people between the age of 13-35 with any chronic illness or disability, both physical and mental health, to have tools to thrive in daily life with their health struggles…and that is why InvisiYouth focuses all its programs like this virtual program on the “medically adult-ish”™ population. It’s a chat show unlike any other, with fun games, segments and guidebook sections.

Special thanks to our team, our founder Dominique, our podcast and filming studio, Gotham Podcast Studio based in New York City, who supports our show and nonprofit to help us have the platform to create InvisiYouth Chat Sessions! And major shout out to our band sponsor/theme song creator Bryan Hansen, for helping this dream have the best soundtrack ever! We’ve got some killer guests lined up, so get ready for an epic season.

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